08.20
Ever open your mouth to say something and immediately wish you could take it back?
Ever hear somebody say something stupid and think to yourself “boy I could have done without that retarded statement”?
I’m sure you answered yes to both these questions. I’m going to use a couple very old sayings to help illustrate my point.
The first one is “Some things are better left unsaid”.
This statement is true in so many ways. I can think of many times when I wish something hadn’t been brought up. I can also think of many times when I wish somebody had let something slide and failed to mention it.
This brings me to the second nugget of wisdom. This one is actually from the book of Proverbs in the bible. (I know shame on me for bringing up the bible)
It goes like this. “Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise”.
Those are such profound words. In other words if you can keep your mouth shut, people who don’t know you will automatically think you are wise. It’s not until you open your mouth and say something stupid that people will realize you’re an idiot. This all leads back to the main point.
When in doubt… KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT! Worst case scenario you will look like the quiet guy who didn’t say much. That is so much better than being the drunk guy who makes an ass of himself, or the pompous prick who talks out of his ass. Or the bitter bitch who criticizes everything.
This rule applies to more than life. It applies to twitter too. Why would you unfollow somebody? Probably because they said something stupid right? So I have an Idea, how about you don’t say anything stupid? What is the easiest way to accomplish this goal?
What about you? Shut up much?
Yeah, I know, I will be daring enough to respond; just wanted to add 2 ideas:
1) can’t get any better than the cliche phrase “think before you speak”-clearest message you will ever receive in life.
2) if there was no fool who opened his mouth, who would there be to laugh at, whine about, and blog about it: everyone serves a purpose
Touche` Get yourself a gravater girl.
better?
Probably one of the most important times to keep your mouth shut is when you’re drunk and meet a girl. Just let her do all the talking and add in little bits here and there. She’ll see you as soft-spoken, confident, and different. I can’t even count how many times I’ve seen guys doing all the talking while drunk with a girl they just met. They all sound like assholes and try to make whatever they are saying more important than it is. Then they wonder why they’re going home alone at the end of the night…
Should have known Ace would bring it full circle back to dating and sex. Great point though. Women are better talkers anyway.
And Yes HiddenSurprise, That is much better.
What Ace says applies to girls too. I once had a girlfriend completely ruin my chances with a guy by speaking what was on my mind (my bad for telling her). She was more wasted than I thought. Me, I keep my mouth shut around new guys unless I know they have some interest.
This brings to mind another cliched quote, but it’s still apropos “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. Everyone wants to be around people who are positive. I know it sounds New-Agey, but really, there is only so much negativity that people in general can take. I follow a few crass people on twitter, and I know for some it’s just their “online persona”. If they are the same in RL, or don’t give me the chance to get to know them in RL, I typically drop and block them.
So how do you guys feel about girls who are quiet? I typically do all the listening and don’t have a problem with that. I tend to communicate more effectively online or via the written word. Go figure.
I don’t mind a quiet girl. Although I would prefer a talkative one. But if she is a “freak in the sheets”, I would be willing to overlook her silence.
So… first things first… who is the bitter bitch that critisizes everything? Huuuh? Just wondering. But I agree on the keep your mouth shut part, that applies to a lot of things though. For me, it always seems that I should keep my mouth shut about things I am excited about, because the minute I open my mouth, the plans just go down-hill… I love your writing. I wish you would write more!
Haha! I thought you might ask that. NO I wasn’t talking about you. I just like your term. “Bitter Bitch” It’s catchy…
I can definitely identify with the whole not saying anything until you have something valuable to add. When ppl meet me they think I’m shy. Once they get to know me, they wonder if I ever stop talking.
Not gonna lie, I’m always a sucker for the quiet one outta the group. And its always a bonus when he perks up over pillow talk. As long as none of those stupid things he was holding on to slip out that is.
-n
Leave it up to N to add some sassy to the conversation.
Oh look! You have spam!
I got accused of being shy last night because I was being quiet and mainly talking to my girlfriends. I *thought* I was giving the guy all the clues necessary that I wasn’t interested and go away please. I guess he was too drunk to get it. Only benefit was he asked what school I went to. I tried *really* hard to not laugh in his face.
darn, you deleted the spam
Yeah those Russian Bastards are always trying to sell me some shit!
Sorry to hear bout your evening. *hugs*
yep, i agree. always best to not say anything, esp when it’s not nice. but, of course, this doesn’t apply to drunken moments.
I tend to keep my mouth shut when it comes to hurting peoples feelings. I suppose this is how I was raised. For the most part, I agree with this philosophy. But it bothers me when I’m at a bar and I get hit on by someone who I am totally repulsed by and I do not immediately tell this person to fuck off. This is where I wish I wasn’t afraid to hurt someones feelings. I feel completely uncomfortable telling someone to leave me alone. God forbid I hurt that assholes feelings.
Go ahead and tell that asshole to fuck off. Most likely he is used to having his “feelings” hurt.
I tend to keep my mouth shut TOO much. I am beginning to realize that can often be a mistake though. People seem to have a lot more respect for someone who isn’t afraid to say what is on their mind. I’ve also found you can lose something you want very badly, if you don’t express your feelings. The people who really matter will come from a place of understanding…..unless you’re just a complete idiot, then you just deserve to get kicked in the teeth anyway.
Well it’s always nice to hear the other side of the coin Ms. Gracie. Sometimes people need to speak up and you are right, if people truly know you they won’t mind.
I think it was Abraham Lincoln who said, “Better to be silent and thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt.”
Words I live by.